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My dad got screwed over by Caterpillar Tractor Company for 30 years and they're still doing it now that he's retired. If it weren't for the UAW I don't know where we'd be, so Bring the Bastards Down, Wisconsin!



"Take ‘Em Down" - Dropkick Murphys
kimber_mcleod: (huff)
Luckily, it would appear Aidan hasn't gotten to that "not talking to my parents" stage yet. She's been quite a bit more talkative lately, actually. She comes in and plops down on me and tells me all about her day, which is nice in a listening to 9 year old girl stuff kind of way.

Anyway, she's been telling me about this kid in her class named Ben. They don't tell kids in a classroom when one of the other kids has a disability, which in one way is fine. But for kids like Ben, who has a rather severe form of autism and has a full time aide in the classroom, it can cause more problems than just explaining things to the kids would do. When kids with severe disabilities that aren't obvious, like being in a wheel chair or being blind, display the functions of this disability, other kids will assume the kid is "just weird". Ben has behavioral and impulse control issues as well as communication issues and these things are very common with children with autism. It's why Ben has an aide.

Now the other kids started this game called "Ben Touch" which is basically cooties only it starts with poor lil Ben. Aidan has been telling me about it and how she doesn't think it's nice and I talked with her about it a bit and agreed. We've talked before about how if kids are being mean or harassing her on the playground she can go to a teacher and tell them and the teacher can address the problem without telling the kids involved who told her. So the day before yesterday Aidan comes plopping on me and says she talked to her teacher about Ben Touch and some of the things the other kids say about Ben. She said she's been sitting next to Ben and talking to him to be nice and when she got to help the teachers grade papers one day Aidan graded Ben's and she saw he's actually very smart. She said she finally decided somebody had to do something because it wasn't nice for Ben even if he doesn't get what the other kids are doing.

So the teacher had a talk with the class today about Ben Touch and the other things kids were saying about him and Aidan said no one played Ben Touch today, anyway. It may not last, but I am just fit to bust proud of my baby girl. I'm sure having Ian for a big brother is a help, she's grown up around someone with autism so she's used to some of the things, but she took the initiative to do something to help someone else. That's all her, bless her little divalishous heart. I told her she was an Awesomecicle and a Hero for Ben. She's my Hero too. :D
kimber_mcleod: (pagan)
I reckon every parent gets to this day. You realize that your baby boy who used to talk your ear off about everything to the point where you wanted to duck tape his little mouth shut for five blessed minutes of silence; gets harassed pretty much every day at school and doesn't say one word about it. Not that I didn't expect it, it's middle school and he's autistic. It's the same process as mass & gravity. But I thought he'd talk to me about it.

You know how I found out? I went to a meeting with his PET team on Monday to discuss some behavior issues and and increased lack of focus on school work. About 2/3 of the way through the meeting, just as an oh by the way remark, the social worker says "He's said to me 'They think I'm stupid and don't know they're making fun of me, but I'm not stupid and I do know.' " I finally managed to wrangle him into talking this evening and sure enough, there are some kids on the bus who try to snatch his lunch box, open his viola case and do the whole "This..Coat..is..Grey.." talking to him like he's a stump.

Shit yeah, he gets to the end of his rope and spits at somebody in gym class. Who the hell wouldn't fray their last nerve and kick some jackass in the shin after that kind of treatment? I think the boy deserves a medal for not putting one of those idiot's head through a window. He scored in the top 8% in the STATE in science this year. I'd be shocked if those Bucket Heads tie their own shoes in the morning.

But there's nothing I can really do, but support him. Get the PET team to work with him around "proper direction of frustration". Perhaps get them to tell the Bucket Heads to step off. I want to go down there and pop their little zit heads right off their necks, but Ian has to learn how to deal with this himself. Unfortunately, it's not going to go away anytime soon.

And there's no one I can talk to about it. There aren't any parent support groups around here and this isn't the kind of thing you drag down friends with. So I vent here and get on with things. ::sigh::
kimber_mcleod: (huff)
21 things NOT to say to a person with autism--literally

I get what she's saying here, I really do. Early on with Ian I had to be very careful not to say some of these things as well, for the reasons stated here. When you say something to a child on the spectrum they literally take your statement...literally.

However, depending where they are on the spectrum, they are quite capable of LEARNING not to. Particularly on the high end of the spectrum, if the parent/caregiver/therapist works with the child around the issues of non-literal thinking and theory of mind, they are quite capable of not only understanding sarcasm and abstract conversational phrasing but using it quite adeptly.

One thing I never expected to hear from Ian's teachers was that he has a dry, rapier wit. On Thanksgiving when he was 4 or 5 someone said to him when he went back for seconds "You must have a hollow leg!" laughing as she said it. He looked at her in all earnestness and said "Actually it's full of muscle bones and tendons." I assumed I would spend the rest of my life interpreting NT (Neuro Typical) speech into Aspie (Asperger's) speech. But now, the boy can snark with the best of them, and honestly, as much as I and his therapists have worked with him on this, I have to give most of the credit to Ian. Just as with body language, facial expressions and understood social etiquette, he has taught himself to understand and appropriately use abstract and sarcastic speech. He's gotten the better of me once or twice, bless him. He and his sister have a "Snark Mommy" contest ongoing. LOL

So never say never. And don't assume that any disability label comes with a preset list of inviolate rules. Just as any child, ours will live up to the lowest expectations we set for them. If you don't tell them they're not supposed to be able to do something, you might be surprised at what they end up doing.
kimber_mcleod: (tardis)
"...For the first time in a very long while Riley Smalls was excited. He liked life on the Colony, there was no doubt about that, but it was hardly exciting. He had made the decision to abandon Earth and move there for good only a few months after coming out of cryogenic suspension. The planet that had greeted him on his waking had been quite different to the one he had left behind, it was so crowded and the people there so different. The everyday things he had taken for granted no longer existed. The things that he thought of as timeless traditions now were little more than footnotes in history.

The counselors provided by the cryogenics lab tried to tell him that this was simply the way of the world, that times change or that things came to pass, but he was having none of it. As far as he was concerned the world had forcibly been changed by the very people he had railed against on his television show. They, it would seem, had won and left the world an overcrowded and chaotic mess. When the opportunity arose to pack his bags and leave for Saturn he had seized it in an instant.

But then a strange thing happened. Days smudged into weeks and months and eventually years and he came to realize that he was bored. For years now his show, The Smalls' Agenda, had largely involved him pouring scorn upon a planet more than a billion miles away based upon the tidbits of information they received on the weekly news broadcasts. He began to see his role as little more than a comforting reminder to the inhabitants of Chelsea 426 that they had made the right choice leaving Earth and that it was so terrible there they would never want to go back.

All that had changed with the discovery of the spores and the arrival of the Newcomers. Now there were people on Chelsea 426 for him to rail against. Now his words would make a difference. Truth was, the Newcomers terrified him. Chelsea 426, as boring as it might have been, was a comfortable oasis of calm. Its environment was so carefully constructed to remind the inhabitants of a time and a place that was, so they imagined, less troubling and changeable, that the arrival of any reminder that the rest of the universe was not that way troubled him. It hung over him like a dark storm cloud overshadowing his thoughts and emotions. However sudden and uninvited the appearance of these Sontarans was, they spoke of ridding the Colony of invaders and that was good enough for him.

"Mr. Smalls, they're ready for you." It was one of his show's runners standing in the doorway of his dressing room. He faced her with a disarming smile and nodded, rising from his chair and following her out into the corridor.

In the studio he sat behind a wide gray desk before a blue and red backdrop. One of the sound technicians clipped a tiny microphone to the lapel of his jacket, and the makeup artist gave him a last minute dab of powder on the nose. Behind the camera the director counted down.

"Five...four..." and then mimed the rest of the countdown with his fingers three...two...one.

"Greetings." said Smalls, smiling into the camera. "As some of you may be aware, our honorable guests, the Sontarans, are investigating a serious incident here on our Colony. At first they arrested our so-called "visitors" the Newcomers from their ships and hotels. Now it transpires they are arresting the residents of Chelsea 426. Now there are some out there who will say they are overstepping the mark, that they are trampling over our liberties but to this I say 'Nonsense'.

The Sontarans are a proud and noble people who just so happen to be at war with a venomous and parasitic race called the Routins. Right now we happen to be caught up in that war. Granted it is through no fault of our own but that isn't to say that we can simply stick our heads in the sand and pretend it isn't happening. The good citizens of Chelsea 426 have nothing to worry about. It is the Newcomers who have brought the war to us not our people and certainly not the Sontarans and so it is the Newcomers who will suffer.

Arrest and questioning by the Sontarans is but a minor inconvenience if we are to have stability returned to our once happy Colony. What you must ask yourselves is 'Do you want stability? Do you want peace?' Are you so arrogant that you believe these things will be handed to you on a plate? Or do you believe as I do that sacrifices must be made? Could you hold your head high with any sense of pride if you knew that cometh the day you had taken the coward's way out? That you had kowtowed to such a vile and poisonous species as the Routins? Furthermore," he paused, taking in a deep breath.

Then he was interrupted very suddenly by a crashing sound somewhere on the other side of the studio. Peering past the studio lights, shielding his eyes from the glare with his hand he saw dark figures entering the room. Dark, broad shouldered figures brandishing guns. One by one the technicians and assistants from his program were being dragged out of the studio, marched at gunpoint through the exits. Finally, one of the shadowy figures stepped into the light. It was a Sontaran.

"We have orders to take you into custody." said the soldier.

"What?" said Smalls, getting to his feet and unclipping his microphone as quickly as he could.

"You are a Routin suspect and as such will be taken into custody."

"No" said Smalls, backing away from the creature waving his hands desperately as if this might ward off the Sontaran. "No, there must be some mistake. I supported your investigation from the beginning! What is this, you can't arrest me! I'm Riley Smalls for crying out loud! Don't you know who I am? Where is your commanding officer? I demand to speak to your superi..."

His words were cut off suddenly and violently as a second Sontaran grabbed him from behind covering his mouth with a gloved hand and jabbing him in the back with the barrel of a gun. Smalls felt his wrists locked together suddenly with handcuffs, seconds later he was blinded as one of the Sontarans tied a length of cloth around his face and over his eyes before wrapping another around his mouth, gagging him completely.

The camera's were still rolling, filming nothing but his empty chair, as they led him out of the studio."

*******************************************************************************************

First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out --
Because I was not a Socialist.

Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out --
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out --
Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me -- and there was no one left to speak for me.

Pastor Martin Niemöller (1892-1984)
kimber_mcleod: (sarky)
I reckon that since this is a separate journal and seems a bit more secure, I can put some of my loudmouthed opinionated stuff over here without bumming out people who just want to kick back and enjoy fandoms.

We'll see how it goes. :D
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I reckon I'll kinda hang out here and see what happens.

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